Selasa, 19 November 2013

Keep Them




If you find someone who makes you smile, who checks up on you often to see if you're okay. Who watches out of you and wants the best for you. Who loves and respects you. Don't let them go. People like that are hard to find.



Marriage Isn't For You

I just read this article from a fanspage of PureMatrimony on Facebook, and I found it is a great writing so i would love to share this with you all. :)

Marriage Isn't For You
By Seth Adam Smith
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Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.
Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.
I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. :) I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.
Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?
Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.
Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget.
My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for youYou don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raisethem? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”
It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family.
My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.
No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”
Some time ago, my wife showed me what it means to love selflessly. For many months, my heart had been hardening with a mixture of fear and resentment. Then, after the pressure had built up to where neither of us could stand it, emotions erupted. I was callous. I was selfish.
But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful—she showed an outpouring of love. Laying aside all of the pain and aguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul.
I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage had been to love me, my side of the marriage had become all about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better.
To all who are reading this article—married, almost married, single, or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette—I want you to know that marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is about the person you love.
And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.
Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you. It’s for others.
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Well, after read this article, I talked to myself, "Nova, marriage is not for yourself. It's not about what would you take ONLY, but what could you give. Prepare yourself being a good woman who deserves for a good man. At the end of the day, a right man will come and you both will love each other in a happy marriage, with cute future children. With Allah as reason, and islam as foundation."
May Allah forgives me, forgives all of us...


Senin, 11 November 2013

One day


One day eventually you will realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will.


Rabu, 06 November 2013

Take and Give


There's no karma such thing in Islam. But remember,

"What you give you will get back"

"What goes around will eventually comes around"

Can not be Stolen





If someone really loves you, no matter how many other people they meet, their feelings for you won't change. 




A real lover can't be stolen.



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Senin, 04 November 2013

Discuss

 
Tidak semua orang memiliki kemampuan untuk berdiskusi, bahkan dengan Tuhannya sendiri.
Not everyone has skill to discuss, even with their God.

Believe

 
I still believe that my happiness would come one day.

Jumat, 01 November 2013

Distance is Nothing



If distance is what I have to overcome to be with you, then give me a map, I am going to find you. 



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